Kid President has this to say.....
and I agree.
20. Thank You - And not just on Thanksgiving. Yes, I should say it more, for random things, for little things, and big things too, to the people that are closest to me, and those that are strangers.
19. Excuse me - and I am working on not saying it sarcastically. No more 'excuse me' with the wrong inflection and head wobble that really means "I can't believe you just f'ing said that".
18. Here is a surprise corn dog I bought you because you are my friend - okay... insert anything where it says corn dog. Point is, I need to be even more giving.
17. I'm sorry - I have been working on this one. Saying it more, but not saying it without feeling.
16. I forgive you - meh, I am a pretty forgiving person, so yay! One full point for me!
15. You can do it! - Work on this everyday at practice. Working on saying it to myself too.
14. I've got bbq sauce on my shirt too - humility, humble, compassionate, whatever you want to call it, I am working on being more understanding of others situations.
13. Please - simple word with so much power, need to say it in a good manner.
12. Everything is going to be okay - yep, again, need to remember that sometimes people are having a bad time, sometimes they don't show it.
11. Ah you got me a corn dog too!? - Be appreciative of the little things people do for you.
10. I don't know - this is hard for me, I am ready to admit when I don't know, but people fail to see it for what it is. Instead of seeing it as me being open to learn, and actively showing that I am not bs'ing you to your face, they see it as a weakness and dismiss me.
9. You're so awesome I named my dog/boat after you - meh, my dog is pretty cool. But, take away from it that I should think about how little moments can inspire others. How you never know who will name their kid after you, because of one moment over a decade ago. (happened to me)
8. Hello person I never met before, here is a high five - YES!
7. My sports team is not always the best sports team - yah..... but we are some of the funnest and classiest out there!
6. Nothing - ____________________
5. Fart sounds - hahahahha remember to laugh....
4. I disagree with you but I respect you [shortened version] - I try to keep this in mind all of the time, about how to compromise and become better as a whole, not just myself.
3. SCREAAAAAAAAAAAAAAM - YEP
2. Life is tough, but so are you. - YES YES
1. something nice - yes, yes yes yes. Thank you kid president!
Showing posts with label Leadership. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Leadership. Show all posts
Tuesday, January 28, 2014
Thursday, January 23, 2014
First test of the season - Leadership
Tomorrow is the first bout of the season for my roller derby team. Last year we grew so much that we have been able to split the team into a rough version of 'varsity' and 'junior varsity'. Since there is not truly a full amount to field full rosters for both teams, there are a few of us that are floating between the two. While I am officially an 'A' team skater (varsity), I will be stepping in to help some of the B team bouts here and there, and this first bout of the season is actually a B team bout against our nearest neighbors. Those of us veteran skaters that will be rounding out the roster are not supposed to be superstars of the B team, we are supposed to be the support for our up and coming skaters. It's a mindset that will benefit everyone, both A and B.
The division of the teams and my personal position has caused me to think about my personal motivations and goals a little bit more keenly. Thus explaining part of the last ten posts all from this year about motivation and fitness. I am an incidental leader. Rarely am I the first to offer up myself to lead a group or take charge in a certain direction. I do not sit idly by, but I realize that there is a position for me as second in command, or slightly behind the scenes. When no one steps up tho, I willingly offer my services and try to help in a leadership position. In the past it has come relatively easily, but I recognize that it is in part because I am stepping up into a vaccum, and the bar is set moderately low.
In the last few months, I have had a 'slump' in my leadership capabilities. Part of it stems from a series of events last spring and summer that really shook my confidence and emotional stability. Dealing with a narcissist that nearly destroyed the team (or at least it felt like it at the time), followed by a devastating injury that made me question if I would be able to continue playing derby, left me shattered and sustaining the position instead of progressing it.
Tuesday night on my drive home from practice I was listening to my local NPR's TED talks Radio hour. The focus for that evening was 'Leadership'. A quote really stood out for me:
"It is so scary to think of ourselves as that powerful, it can be frightening to think that we can matter that much to other people. Because as long as we think leadership is something bigger than us, as long as we keep leadership as something beyond us, as long as we make it about changing the world, we give ourselves an excuse not to expect it everyday from ourselves and from each other. "
I am not sure why this triggered some things in my brain. It is not that I have not been aware that my leadership skills are lacking, and that I need to up my ante. I just have been living in a stasis up to this point. Still thinking, but hopefully actually acting.
The division of the teams and my personal position has caused me to think about my personal motivations and goals a little bit more keenly. Thus explaining part of the last ten posts all from this year about motivation and fitness. I am an incidental leader. Rarely am I the first to offer up myself to lead a group or take charge in a certain direction. I do not sit idly by, but I realize that there is a position for me as second in command, or slightly behind the scenes. When no one steps up tho, I willingly offer my services and try to help in a leadership position. In the past it has come relatively easily, but I recognize that it is in part because I am stepping up into a vaccum, and the bar is set moderately low.
In the last few months, I have had a 'slump' in my leadership capabilities. Part of it stems from a series of events last spring and summer that really shook my confidence and emotional stability. Dealing with a narcissist that nearly destroyed the team (or at least it felt like it at the time), followed by a devastating injury that made me question if I would be able to continue playing derby, left me shattered and sustaining the position instead of progressing it.
Tuesday night on my drive home from practice I was listening to my local NPR's TED talks Radio hour. The focus for that evening was 'Leadership'. A quote really stood out for me:
"It is so scary to think of ourselves as that powerful, it can be frightening to think that we can matter that much to other people. Because as long as we think leadership is something bigger than us, as long as we keep leadership as something beyond us, as long as we make it about changing the world, we give ourselves an excuse not to expect it everyday from ourselves and from each other. "
I am not sure why this triggered some things in my brain. It is not that I have not been aware that my leadership skills are lacking, and that I need to up my ante. I just have been living in a stasis up to this point. Still thinking, but hopefully actually acting.
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